FAQ: What Disqualifies a Surrogate Mother?

Becoming a surrogate mother is a deeply meaningful and life-changing journey. It’s a role that comes with enormous responsibility — not just emotionally, but also medically and legally. Because of that, the requirements are strict, and not everyone qualifies. If you’re wondering, “Could I be disqualified from being a surrogate?” — this guide will break it all down for you.

We’ll walk you through the most common questions and scenarios that may disqualify someone from becoming a surrogate, clarify any gray areas, and help you understand your next steps if you’re not sure where you stand.

Can I Be a Surrogate Mother If I’ve Never Been Pregnant?

In most cases, no. One of the most common requirements for gestational surrogacy in the U.S. is having had at least one full-term, uncomplicated pregnancy and delivery. Why? Because:

• It proves your body is capable of carrying a pregnancy to term.
• It gives you a personal understanding of the physical and emotional demands of pregnancy and childbirth.
• It reduces the unknowns and risks for the intended parents, doctors, and the surrogacy agency.

If you’ve never been pregnant, even if you’re in excellent health, most agencies and fertility clinics will not accept you as a surrogate — especially for gestational surrogacy. Some exceptions might exist in rare, independent arrangements, but they’re not standard and carry more legal and emotional risks for everyone involved.

Can I Be a Surrogate If I’m Not Married?

Yes — being unmarried does not disqualify you from becoming a surrogate mother. Whether you’re single, divorced, or in a long-term relationship but not legally married, you can still qualify — as long as the rest of your health, lifestyle, and personal circumstances meet the agency’s or clinic’s requirements.

• If you’re in a committed relationship, your partner may need to be involved in the legal process (and possibly medical testing).
• If you're single, agencies may look more closely at your support system, especially if you have children at home.

Can I Be a Surrogate If I’m Receiving Government Assistance?

This is a tricky one — and often a disqualifier. If you are currently receiving public assistance such as:

• Medicaid
• SNAP (food stamps)
• Section 8 housing
• TANF (Temporary Assistance for Needy Families)

...you may not qualify to become a surrogate mother.

• Surrogacy compensation could disrupt your benefits, leading to financial complications.
• Surrogacy agencies want to ensure financial stability and that you’re not being driven by economic hardship.

Some agencies will consider your case individually, especially if you are transitioning off assistance or only receiving minor support, but most will disqualify candidates who are actively dependent on government aid.

Want to check your benefits eligibility? Here’s the official site for U.S. benefit programs: https://www.benefits.gov

Can I Be a Surrogate Mother After Tubal Ligation?

Yes! Having your tubes tied (tubal ligation) does not disqualify you — and in fact, it’s often seen as a plus.

• Gestational surrogacy uses intended parents’ or donors’ eggs and sperm, not your own.
• The embryo is transferred to your uterus through IVF, so fallopian tubes are not involved.
• It can signal you’re not seeking to have more biological children, adding clarity to the agreement.

Can I Be a Surrogate at Any Age?

No — age is one of the most common disqualifiers. In the U.S., the general rule is:

• Minimum age: 21 years old
• Maximum age: Usually 40–45 years old

• Younger than 21? You’re considered legally and emotionally less prepared.
• Older than 45? Pregnancy risks increase significantly.

Some clinics or independent arrangements may allow exceptions (e.g. up to 47 if you’ve had recent healthy pregnancies), but those are rare.

You can explore general guidelines on pregnancy health and age from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services: https://www.womenshealth.gov

Can I Be a Surrogate Anywhere in the United States?

Not quite. Some U.S. states are surrogacy-friendly, while others have legal barriers. Here's a breakdown:

Surrogacy-friendly states (examples):

• California
• Illinois
• Connecticut
• Oregon

Legally complex or restricted states:

• Michigan – surrogacy contracts are void and can be criminally penalized
• Louisiana – gestational surrogacy allowed under strict conditions
• Nebraska – laws restrict compensated surrogacy

Agencies usually avoid surrogates in states with unclear or hostile laws. Check legal resources at: https://www.usa.gov

What If I Think I Am Disqualified to Be a Surrogate Mother?

• Get a professional evaluation. You might still qualify through agency screening.
• Improve your eligibility. Address factors like BMI or smoking status.
• Talk to a surrogacy coordinator. They’ll give realistic feedback without pressure.

For more about qualifications, check out the CDC pregnancy resources: https://www.cdc.gov

Conclusion

Becoming a surrogate is a powerful way to change lives — but it’s not a fit for everyone. Whether you’ve never been pregnant, rely on government assistance, or live in a state with restrictive laws, it’s important to understand the full picture before diving in.

If you're unsure whether you’re eligible, the best next step is to speak with a licensed surrogacy agency. Honest conversations and transparency are key — for your safety, the intended parents’ peace of mind, and the future baby’s wellbeing.

Still have questions? That’s totally normal. Surrogacy is a serious decision, and you deserve real answers — no fluff, no pressure, just the facts.