What Should You Pack in Your Surrogate Hospital Bag?

Preparing for delivery as a surrogate is a unique experience. While you’re not going home with a newborn, your role is still deeply emotional and physically intense. Being prepared for your hospital stay is essential—not only for your comfort, but to make the experience smooth, positive, and stress-free.

This guide is designed specifically for surrogates. We’ll walk you through exactly what to pack in your hospital bag, what to expect, and what’s best left at home. Whether it’s your first journey or your third, you deserve to feel fully supported and prepared.

Your Surrogate Hospital Delivery Packing List

Unlike packing for your own delivery, your bag as a surrogate should focus on your recovery and personal comfort. Since the baby will be going home with the intended parents, your needs are the priority here.

• Comfortable clothes for labor and post-delivery
• Toiletries and hygiene items
• Items to help you relax or stay occupied
• Chargers and essential tech
• Easy snacks and drinks
• A few things to make the room feel a bit more “you”

We suggest packing your bag around 35 weeks, or sooner if your OB thinks you may deliver early. If you’re working with a surrogacy agency, they may also provide a few bonus items or care packages—so check in advance!

Post-Delivery Clothing

After delivery, your body will need time to rest, recover, and regulate. The right clothing can make a world of difference. Here’s what to bring:

• Loose, breathable pajamas or lounge sets – Avoid anything tight around the waist or hips.
• Nursing bras or support bras – Even if you aren’t nursing, your body will still produce milk.
• Adult diapers or high-absorbency underwear – Most hospitals provide some, but many women prefer their own.
• Warm socks and slippers – Hospital floors are cold.
• A lightweight robe – For easy bathroom trips or walking around the floor.
• Comfortable going-home outfit – Think yoga pants and a soft tee. Nothing that zips or squeezes.
• Pro tip: If you delivered via C-section, prioritize high-waisted or maternity-style bottoms that won’t irritate the incision site.

Personal Items

Don’t rely on the hospital to have everything. You’ll want to bring your own:

• Toothbrush, toothpaste, face wash, deodorant
• Dry shampoo or hairbrush
• Lip balm and lotion (hospitals are dry)
• Glasses or contacts
• Basic makeup if you want to freshen up for photos
• ID pouch – Keep your ID, insurance card, and any necessary paperwork handy.
• Journal – Some surrogates also bring a small journal to capture post-delivery emotions.

Must-Have Accessories

Little comforts can go a long way during your hospital stay:

• Heating pad or microwaveable heat pack – For cramps or back pain.
• Sleep mask or earplugs – Hospitals are noisy at night.
• Essential oils or scented lotion – Lavender, peppermint, or eucalyptus can be calming.
• Soft blanket or pillow from home – The hospital ones are functional, but not cozy.
• Your own water bottle – Preferably one that keeps drinks cold/hot for hours.

Mid-article, it’s a good idea to remind all birthing individuals to stay aware of postnatal warning signs. The CDC offers a full list of symptoms and when to seek medical help at: https://www.cdc.gov/hearher

Food & Drink

Hospital food is hit-or-miss. And after labor, you might want something comforting or familiar. Here’s what we recommend:

• Electrolyte drinks – Coconut water, Gatorade, or electrolyte packets.
• Granola bars, crackers, nuts – For quick energy boosts.
• Tea bags – Especially ginger or chamomile for calming your system.
• Mints or gum – Especially if you’re not eating much.
• Instant coffee or creamer – Bring your favorites if you're picky.

Make sure any snacks are sealed and easy to eat without utensils. And ask your care team if there are any food restrictions based on your recovery plan or medications. Some hospitals also limit food for visitors, so check with your agency or care team in advance. You can also learn more about inpatient care standards and nutrition through: https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov

Technology

You're going to want a few tech essentials—not just to stay entertained, but also to stay in touch with the intended parents and your support team. Bring:

• Phone and charger (extra-long cords are great)
• Tablet or laptop – Especially if you're staying more than one night
• Headphones – Noise-canceling if possible
• Digital camera or tripod – If you want to capture a few memories
• Entertainment apps – Downloaded in advance as Wi-Fi can be spotty

You may also want to set up a photo-sharing folder or album that you can easily send to the intended parents after delivery. This is a thoughtful touch they’ll likely treasure. If you're using any health-related apps or devices, you can refer to privacy guidelines from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services at: https://www.hhs.gov

Conclusion

Packing your hospital bag as a surrogate is more than a checklist—it’s an act of self-care. You’ve given so much already, and now it’s time to take care of yourself.

Every surrogate experience is unique, but one thing remains the same: you deserve to feel safe, supported, and seen in those final hours before, during, and after delivery.

Talk to your agency or coordinator if you're unsure what your hospital provides or if you're anticipating a C-section. Most importantly, listen to your body and your needs. You're doing something extraordinary—so bring what makes you feel strong, calm, and comfortable.

Your journey matters. And this final step? It’s just as important as all the ones before it.